Why do you come and go as you please? Is my life a playground?


I see way too deep into future, like really deep, where I assume all the consequences of things that are happening right now. What did I see when you broke the news that you were accompanying me to my  study place even though your admission didn’t proceed? I saw this day; I felt a glimpse of these aches that has left me, here,  shattered, yet my fingers barely move just to capture these chaotic emotions, for they aren’t worth leaving out like that.

What seemed an enjoyable, frustrating and happy but short stay, was announced to end after a fine morning jog that we had just finished and were having breakfast on that bright Sunday morning. The showers from Saturday and Friday had left the ground damp and when Sunday’s bright says hit, the ground seemed fresh, pleasing, like after the aow-pashi that we do. Being quite brutal to the day’s perfection, you, in a low tone, said the most loudest words possible, “I think I am going home.” My reply, “So what.. your stay here is finally enough?” might have sounded like I didn’t take it that hard, but boy if you had felt what hurricane it caused inside me. And just like that, this melancholy shadow was formed which followed me until this moment, where it has now overtook me completely.

I, then, knew that you were leaving but the uncertainty of when you were leaving was even worse that the approach of the pain-shower that was about to be bestowed on me. But today, what seemed quite not like a day that you’d finally throw down the gauntlet and leave, you found company and you did. Abrupt, okay, but just as sudden; both less lengthy torture and great instantaneous pain. Our chat from earlier this evening didn’t do no good to create a healthy mood for see off, and when I saw you packing as I came down after dinner, I knew it was really happening and I made my mind that there will be no good byes - and just like usual, you didn’t bother as well; you left.

You left, and I was holed again, that empty place regained its spot once again that makes me feel incomplete from the inside. I tried to ignore it but the melancholic feeling had already gone the damage. But the movie, The Florida Project, that I aimed to finish and give myself a consolation, its ending did just the opposite: it added to my pain. When Mony runs and reaches the door of Jancy to meet her one final time because some people are taking her away, it portrayed the exact same scene that just happened with me, but here I, the remainder, was the one crying, not you, the abandoner. Mony made a face so full of emotions for seconds that seemed like an eternity and broke into heavy words, then choked, and finally into pure, heart-driven cries, that it caused to me repeat after what she just did. “You are my best friend and this is the last time I am seeing you. I can’ talk . . .” she said, and cried, cried like a baby that she was, from a pure heart. Though Jancy grabbed her hand and they both ran away to Disney Land, you weren’t there to take mine; you were gone.

I went into the bathroom which was dark due to electrical issues, and I texted a friend about your departure. That was it, it brought the emotions to surface, it always does; sharing your feelings with someone let them rise and pour right through you. And then came just the right song, for this right situation, with the light amount of light (very dim and dark), that I would repeatedly play for the next 30 or so minutes – and cry. As I cried, I cursed you just like the song told me to, and I cursed you again and again because the song was on repeat. I was crying unstoppably, sobbing really heavily, blood all gathered up in my head, eyes sour, nose obese. There I was crying for you and I texted you, “Why do you come and go as you please? Don’t I have any right over you?”. Then I wrote again, “It is not weak of me to miss you, feel for you… it is not weak even if I can’t stop my crying over you. It’s not!” But what meanings would these words hold for you if you read them through a screen and the next moment press the lock button and put the phone back into your pocket and resume whatever you were thinking, and think something out of whatever you were thinking before – and my words would get lost amongst those and die.

But as the hot showers poured over me, I looked at my blurry image on the foggy mirror and, deep down, asked God to watch this, and take notice; watch this and know that it is for real. Not even knowing what am I trying to prove here, I ached more because you weren’t there to see me this helpless, to witness all what I have been telling you and know that it was for real. And the absence of you from the painful show I was putting made me feel so defeated. I felt so small, first in the pain that I was feeling, later, in knowing that you wouldn’t know this ever, at all. Nevertheless, I felt it myself, and God felt it through me. I knew I felt it because I could distinguish my tears from the hot waters that were flowing through my hair and over my nose and cheeks; I felt that my tears my were more warmer, I felt they carried more weight to them over the normal water, I felt the roundness of my tears over the shapelessly flowing water, I felt them and so did God. I don’t know why am I excusing God into my such troublesome matters, but I guess I know He would keep a record of this and, maybe, someday might let you know of my feelings for you.